Friday, July 8, 2016

Things I Don't Understand

I'll be honest. For the last week, E and I have been in the city. The TV isn't working at the condo, and we've been out and about that my "catching up" with social media has been limited. I've kinda been living in a bubble for the past week, and kept hearing things, but didn't really pay attention. I often like to joke about "ignorance is bliss", but really, it isn't, so last night I caught up on what everyone's been talking about.

I like to be honest with Ethan. I let him know what facts are and what my opinions are, and I'll even admit to him when there's nothing to back up my opinions. Like every other mother, I want my child to grow up to be kind, intelligent, caring.... But last night, I worried more about the kind of world my son will have, that the kind of person he'll be in it.

Like every other mother, I try to help my child understand things. And those who know me, know I add a little sarcastic flair, every now and then. If he has a question I cannot answer, I'll tell him that, and we try to google it.

But what happens when I don't understand something? Seriously.

Here are the things I do not understand:

* I do not understand how a man can be openly racist and sexist, make fun of the disabled and yet still be considered to be a potential world leader.

* I do not understand how a man can brutally rape a woman, feel remorse over drinking and partying, but not for his actions, and be told "no jail for you, you've been through enough".

* I do not understand how a man can walk into a nightclub, shoot a bunch of people, and instead of being concerned about how he got a hold of these weapons, we discuss his race and religion.

* I do not understand how police offers can sit on a man, and still feel "threatened" enough to shoot him dead.

* I do not understand why police officers would feel the need to shoot a man in front of a 4-year old child.

* I do not understand why terrorist groups are called religious groups. Doesn't all religion promote love, forgiveness and understanding?

* I do not understand why terrorist groups feel the need to kill everyone. No seriously. What's the point? To show you can? Really?

* I do not understand how governments can be so bad that their people need to flee to feel safe. And then, instead of being welcomed by other humans and being treated like ...humans... they are met with anger and fear. Why would they risk their lives to leave a place of war, if what they wanted was to cause... war?

I want my child to grow up to be kind, openminded, loving, intelligent. I want my child to care for others. But how is that possible when the world around him is filled with so much hate?

Tuesday, June 21, 2016

Father's Day Interview

For the last few years, on Father's Day, I interview Ethan to see how much he knows about his father. As he gets older, the answers are closer to the truth. At one point, Ethan claimed his dad was as tall as a giraffe! 

This year, Ethan showed off his humourous side. He could not stop laughing when answering some of these.

What is something Daddy always says to you?
"Sit up straight."

What makes Daddy happy?
When I sit up straight.

What makes him sad?
When I don't sit up straight.

(I'm seeing a pattern here.)

What does he do that makes you laugh?
 He makes funny jokes. 

He shouts at people in the car.

What was he like as a child?


How old is Daddy?

I remember on his birthday we changed the candles around and said he was 84!

How tall is he?
I'm not sure.

What is his favourite thing to do?


What does he do when you're not around?

Watch sports.

If Daddy was famous, what would it be for?
Shouting at people in the car.

(Apparently you can be famous for that!)

What is he really good at?
(Let me guess....)
Shouting at people in the car!
(yup, thought so!)

What is he not really good at?
Not yelling at people when in the car.

(Bet you guessed that one too.)

What does he do for his job?
Truck shipping!

Yeah, truck shipping.

What is Daddy's favourite food?


What makes you proud of him?
He has a good job.

If Daddy was a cartoon character, who would he be?
Donald the Duck
Not Donald the Duck,
Just Donald Duck. 

What do you and Daddy do together?
We watch sports.
(And apparently that's what he does when Ethan's not around too.)

How are you and Daddy the same?
We come from the same family.
No, we have the same mommy.
No....we have the same lady.

(Lady??? WTH???)

How are you different?
I'm young, he's old.

How do you know he loves you?

He kisses me.

Where is Daddy's favourite place to go?
Definitely not to work....

Happy Father's Day Scott. Thanks for being an awesome dad!

Tuesday, April 5, 2016

Second Life - SJ Watson

Meet Julia.

She's a photographer. She takes portraits, although once, she took photographs as a form of art and expressing herself.

She's married to a wonderful husband. But she's remembering a lot about a past love.

She was once very close to her sister. But over the last few years, they've grown apart.

And then her sister is murdered. Julia visits her sister's roommate and learns more about Kate than she thought she would. She now feels compelled to "help" solve the murder.

Kate was involved in online "dating", so Julia goes online, in hopes of learning more about her sister, and possibly what happened to her. But the more she digs, the more she's dragged into this new life. This second life.

Now Julia finds herself leading two separate lives. She's loosing control of her real life. And is she really any closer to learning the truth?

Monday, March 28, 2016

The Wave - Todd Strasser

I don't think I ever read this book in school. I do remember seeing my high school put on a stage production of this. I'm not sure what made me think of it, but thought I'd give it a try.

The Wave is based on a true incident that occurred in a history class in Palo Alto, California in 1969.

Ben Ross is a high school, teacher at Gordon High School. He shows his students a video of Hitler as part of their studies on WWII. His students are mortified. They cannot understand how everyone accepted this view. They question how this could happen. They are convinced, it could never happen again.

So the next day, Ben introduces his students to discipline. And strength. And later action. He creates a symbol (the wave) and even has a salute. Soon, his students are recruiting new members. While they are disciplined and getting through their work, they are starting the threaten those that do not want to be a part of their group. They are excluding others. They have... become what they felt would never happen.

While not the best books ever written, the idea and what occurs is not just something you can see, it's something that is happening. It's something to be concerned about.

Moral of the story; if in your heart it feels wrong, then it is wrong.

Murder Madness Such Sweet Sadness - Jamie Blair & Dawn Rae Miller

I had a fabulous weekend. We saw some animals, and I got a lot of reading done. Murder Madness Such Sweet Sadness was the perfect book to read. It's funny, thrilling, mysterious. and an easy read for the weekend.

MMSSS begins with Val in jail. She's spent a week here. She's been arrested for the murder of Jackson. But after a week, she is set free. And Jackson's murderer continues to walk free.

Val, Haddie, Reggie, and Livie. Four girls, who seem to have nothing in common. Well other than they were all involved with Jackson. Oh, and they all have secrets they would prefer were kept that way.

But suddenly there's the appearance of The Fifth. She knows their secrets and is happy to share them with everyone. The girls are now thrown together to discover who The Fifth is. They are determined to find Jackson's killer. And to keep their secrets safe.

What can I say, other than I loved this! It's one of those fun books. You laugh with them. Roll your eyes at their utter stupidity. You also wonder who the real killer is; Marucs? (But he gets killed. Spoiler alert) Livie's mom? Haddie's dad? Val's boyfriend (Bet you didn't think of that one!) The Fifth?

Golden Son - Pierce Brown

Ok, I'm still heartbroken over the ending, so I'll be keeping this one short.

Golden Son is part two of the Red Rising series. Darrow is now part of the Golds, the ruling class, but his enemies are out to get him.

Darrow is forced to betray friends, confide in friends, and make friends with the enemy. He is torn between his love for Eo, and his new love for his friends and Mustang.

This book is  heart wrenching. It will tear you in all directions. These are not characters in a book. They are real.

And once I've recovered, I'll pick up the final book and see how it all ends.

Wish me luck.

Monday, March 14, 2016

Birthday Tradition

When Ethan was 8 months old, I ordered a birthday present, online, for Scott. The week before his birthday, it hadn't arrived, and I panicked. Scott's first year as a dad, and no gift? That can't happen! So I bought a kanga (African printed fabric) and had a shirt made for him. There was some fabric left over, so I had one made for Ethan too. On the day of Scott's birthday, I dressed Ethan in his new shirt, and presented Scott with his.

It began with this.

And a tradition was born!

Every year since then, on Scott's birthday, the boys have matching shirts. This year, is the 10th year we've done this, so I thought I'd share the evolution of shirts.








And this year's shirts.....

Happy birthday Scott. Thanks for being an amazing husband, father, human being!!!